Why I am not able to ask questions easily

Everyone can come up with brilliant questions. Every single person has the intelligence.  But what stops us from asking it out.  You are standing right in front of them, but you couldn't ask them. Why?

It's because, when the actual moment comes, your mind immediately gives you warning signals .. "What if they don't this and that?" And if they said like that, what is my next step .. and the question goes on.. and the original question will no longer have the energy as how you use to have it before. And it usually becomes a failure leaving us behind and depressed.

But, the problem here is with our mind. It has so much of negative thoughts and the energy level is high in negative vibration. This is the key point. Learning to twist it makes one's life a little easier..

How to become Assertive

Definition of Assertive

Assertiveness is the ability to express your emotions and needs without violating the rights of others and without being aggressive.

People who are not assertive do their best to please others while violating their own rights or sacrificing their own needs. For the sake of avoiding rejection those people become overly nice to win their friends but they end up losing their self confidence.

Assertiveness is not about showing people that you can shout and its not about scaring them but it's something between being aggressive and being passive.

Assertiveness is the act of asking for what you want in a confident way that harms no one but in the same time preserves your rights.

Assertiveness is not something that is inherited. Assertiveness is a skill that anyone can learn if he decided to. Lack of assertiveness usually result from the way a person was raised. If a child was constantly told that he must be nice in order for others to like him then he might not become assertive when he grows up.

The good news is that you can learn how to be assertive starting today once you take the decision and decide that you won't let go of your rights anymore for the sake of pleasing others.

Will people like me if I'm Assertive??

Contrary to common beliefs being assertive will not let people avoid you or hate you, this may only happen with over sensitive people who might get hurt by assertiveness. Here is a guide that will help you (spot a sensitive person from his looks). Normal people on the other hand won't hate you when you become assertive but on the contrary they will like you because you sound more confident.

In order to be assertive you must stick to these rules;

• You have the right to have your own values, beliefs, opinions, and emotions.
• You have the right not to justify or explain your actions to others.
• You have the right to tell others how you wish to be treated.
• You have the right to express yourself and to say, "No," "I don't know," "I don't understand," or even "I don't care."
• You have the right to take the time you need to formulate your ideas before expressing them.
• You have the right to make mistakes.
• You have the right to stand up for yourself and for what you want.
• You have the right to be treated with respect.

If you refused to follow these guidelines and if you insisted on not being assertive then you might end up feeling worthless as your self confidence will be badly affected.

Being assertive is not a hard a task. You just need to change two things, the words that you use and your body language.

Assertiveness in relationships

People who are not assertive keep accumulating the bad emotions that result from the violation of their rights then explode later on when they can't bear them anymore. This habit can ruin any relationship and this is another reason why you must learn how to be assertive.

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How To Stop Being Lazy - Overcoming Procrastination

Overcoming Procrastination - How To Stop Being Lazy

When we talk about Overcoming Procrastination in reality, for many people, we are talking about How To Stop Being Lazy!

When we were young, we had so many plans. We'd always think about the limitless possibilities we'd have when we grow up. Then we go about playing, thinking that we have so much time ahead. We set those dreams aside and enjoy our youth to the fullest.

While this may be a healthy attitude, some people take relaxation to another level. They procrastinate and set their planning to another day until that day comes too late.

They suddenly find themselves already grown up with no clear direction in their lives. They still depend on their parents for financial support even when moving out of the house is way overdue.

They live in shame, but still don't find the initiative to do something about it. This is laziness in its most basic and blatant form.

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